So in short I am going to tell you people that what is going to be explained and believe me it is pretty much interesting and relatable to the world of today and of course its relevant to the age group of you people. And I probably think that every one of you want that this topic must be discussed and even you people will enjoy it and find it interesting.?
Let our lives be simple don’t make them even more complex.
Inferiority complex When we see others and believe that they are better from us in every aspect so how it feels when we look at that person who is better from us in every way? Of course we feel jealous, we feel very bad and we can also say we under goes inferiority complex. When someone reaches ahead of us then different kind of insecurities takes place inside us. Thinking of this one kind of major insecurity in almost every girl or a boy is that he/she has a better person beside them and even if the person that holds the position is more down in status as compare to me. And I think that there is no one left with this insecurity possession. Everyone in life time undergoes with this phase of inferiority complex. Every person feels insecure in their life and every time the reason is different.
I think this happens because of the comparison. You compare yourself with others to their looks, status and success. Here even sometimes I my self does so but often I come across a question sometimes and I am sure you people will also sometime in your life on a specific point will come across this and the question is that why do we compare ourselves with others? And the answer is simple we want happiness that we really find happiness by comparing our self to others. And this just clicked my mind that a philosopher said:
Happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to other people.
And when we are in this stage we just find or see the positive qualities of the one we are comparing our self too and on the other hand when we are seeing the positive image of the other person we on the same time are placing and identifying the negative image or qualities of our own self. in fact the people just portrays their positive image. For example, ‘social media’ we uploads our best picture and obviously everyone does. And a picture in which we are not able to recognize ourselves, we see the picture and thinks that wow is this me? How pretty I look. The type of picture in which you can’t be recognized. So we all try to set our positive and best image out in front of the world and if we doesn’t I know people start criticizing and it’s not true everyone knows this because every individual have strengths and weaknesses and we are trying to hide those weaknesses.
Don’t compare your weaknesses with others.
So people! How shall one be saving from the insect of comparison? To finish this thing permanently or to take out a permanent solution we need to first see the types of reality and we have 2 types of reality in the present day world and it always existed and is continuing from the past times.one is the reality and the other one is the virtual reality. Reality is the one in which we truly see the real concept of our own self’s but virtual reality is the one which isn’t true but
seems true. Social media is surrounded by virtual reality. And which is happening in our homes in our families its reality. For example I am the topper of the class or let’s say college. I have scored good marks and my sister isn’t good at studies she scores average, there comes the actual comparison where parents indulge and compare me and my sister.one never compares you to the other until its real I have scored good so on that basis they are comparing it’s not that I haven’t
scored good and they are still comparing me and my sister .this is reality. And if you accept the virtual reality your life is finished. No one can save you from your own self’s. It’s like watching a horror movie and believing that all aspects shown in a movie will be true and much more to believe it. And believe me it completely destroys a person. This is killing your own happiness and joy. Okay so let’s now take another example; on social media a body is perfect and everyone knows that no one has a perfect body.so what is more important? Showing or portraying a
perfect body from outside or feeling perfect from inner side? And of course more convenient is the inner side. A person inner shall be more perfect than outer body.
All is fake. Everyone is copying each other. There is no focus on self. So from letting ourself save from comparison there is only one way out and it’s that you first believe and realize the truth that social media is all lie and false and even fake. The moment we see it as a fact you are free from this. And if we believe social media a true side we will start behaving like them.
Showing of, judging people, everyone in a race increasing their followers invading their personal spacey and privacy. And the second step is that when we will stop focusing on other people and starts focusing on our self. There should be just you. You have qualities that no one else has… because you were born unique. The sooner you realize that, and start living your life as yourself, free from caring about opinions of others… the happier you will be.
Okay…. I want to share my experience with y’all . l always felt I was never good enough. Anytime I was around my peers, I always felt inferior. Sometimes wished I never existed. This actually was very difficult when this was on me. Most difficult time period i have ever felt. I used to compare my own self with others. I always thought that everyone was way better than me, prettier than me,fitter and even more graceful than me. When I was body shamed I was automatically put into the situations where I never meant to be. When people body shamed me I actually started thinking that I was less than others. This was a point where my confidence was put down. This was really unappealing to me. Day and nights I used to spend my time in thinking these awful experience with me. This whole process took 1-2 years where I thought my self on the verge. I was full of complexes. I gave up.?
Days went on and I deeply went through different stages of depression in that time. Meanwhile everything felt stale and paled. But soon this process was going on my inner thing knocked my head and even my heart that what was actually happening? No one was getting effected. No one had to do nothing with my situation. Soon I realized that the one who was affecting badly was me,my own self. Nothing happened to them, it was only me. I then stood up from my that low self-esteem thing. I make my self realized that my worth was more than everyone. I was my self pettier, fitter and more beautiful and I didn’t needed my self to compare me with someone. I raised my self-esteem. I tried saying NO to the people where I was required to. I gained positivity around myself. One thing I always keep in my working body mind and heart is that,once you are comfortable in your own company,nothing will top it. There is nothing to be embarrassed about this. I have always kept this in me and this helped me a lot in recovering and overcoming my fears about what will others think. I am happy to keep my own company. ???
Sometimes there are some certain people in your life who help you to overcome your inner complexes, problems and many more faults within you but sometimes its only you. Trust me this time was only me. I was just to focus on my self. With the passage of time I begin to realize that this was just my problem. I made it so complex that I even did not realized that it was very much difficult for me. So last but not the least I helped my self. I raised my self-esteem. I fought with the comparison. I told my self that I don’t need to compare my self with others because I my self is better than others.❤??
Lastly to wrap up, Start working on yourself and do it all the time. Never stop working on yourself. You yourself are the competition. Never ever compare yourself to others because if you are doing so you are just insulting yourself. When you will start working on yourself, focusing on your character and personality life will be easier, happy and joyful. You people should know that by working or focusing on you better can make a difference. There are many people who need you. Often it is the sense of uselessness that creates inferiority complex. Get involved in building up the lives of others especially those who have not many to encourage them to succeed. The knowledge that you put a smile on someone’s face by a kind word, gesture or deed, the realization that your help gave someone the courage to live another day, is a great healer. Just
remember one thing always in your life when you are confuse or stuck on a certain point that:
There is always going to be someone prettier than you, fitter than you, smarter than you,
richer than you and appearing happier than you. Good for them. Good for all of them. You
focus on you.
Let me tell you that inferiority complex is not a problem that is solved in a moment’s time. Sometimes it can be a lifelong battle. Those who are suffering from inferiority complex need not lose heart if the
struggle seems too long drawn out. There is yet hope. Do not despise yourself. But be thankful that you can still make a positive and creative difference in the lives of others in spite of struggling with feelings of inferiority!?